Sorry da, I should not have done that

If you ask me, what is the biggest mistake which I have done in my life, I think I should say this. I asked my friend to propose to his girl friend. Is it such a mistake, yes it had turned out to be. If it is causing pain to two people for more than six months, then isn’t it a big mistake?

It all started just like that. I was in my friend’s home on a week end. One of my best and brilliant friends came to me and said he likes a girl. Since I don’t have much experience in this topic, I should have skipped it. I foolishly gave him confidence to propose her. I quoted lot of live examples. He became confident and when I left his home, he said he will propose the next day. One thing I know from his side, his parents are ready to accept it. But to be frank, I thought the girl will definitely turn down his proposal.

He did what he said. He proposed to that girl the next day. Definitely I should appreciate his courage here. If I had been in his position, even after 100 people said, I would not have got the courage to propose. As I though the girl replied in the negative. I was really happy. B’coz things are going in the way which I thought and my friend is not in much trouble. Definitely in few days, my friend would also forget her. Why I say this because, they have not talked much. He had seen her, he liked her character, he proposed her. He also said if someone doesn’t like him, he will move away from them.

I thought story has ended. But I was wrong, the story had just started. After one weak, I got the biggest shock. The girl had accepted his proposal. It had taken one weak for her to decide on it. Though she accepted, she said we will still be friends as her parents won’t agree. How can two people be friends after they know both of them like each other. Love started blossoming strongly between both.

By know could you know a parallel between this story and a super hit tamil film which got released recently. Yes, you are right. It’s ‘vinnai thandi varuvaya’ . He always says it’s my story. Even it seems he had used the same words to her ‘There are many girls in this world. Why should I like you?’

From my friend’s words, I understood she is really good. She is torn between love and parents. She told her parents. They rebuffed the proposal. They asked her to forget him. Immediately bridegroom search started and things started going awry.

It has been six months now. Lots of cries, lots of sms, long hours of talking and my friend was really suffering. He did all he could do for her. He talked to her brother. He talked to her parents. They didn’t even hear what he said, let alone talking to him. He did fasting. Nothing worked. Six months of pain…

Now what happened, that’s your question, right? Tomorrow that girl gets engaged. After usual blackmail from parents of death, she accepted it. I thought the story has ended at least now. But I don’t know it may continue, because I have thought the same n number of times. Whenever my friend calls and tells the status, I think it has come to an end. But something more will happen. Lovers go on trying till the end. ‘Never say die’ attitude perfectly fits them.

When I heard she is getting engaged, I thought it’s over. But my friend as a final attempt had talked to the bridegroom. Even the girl had told about her love to the bridegroom and in the end she had told that she will try to change herself otherwise her parents would die. So, the bridegroom had finally accepted it. This is what had happened till now. My friend may scold me for missing out many; I couldn’t remember all he said.

Today he cried to me in phone. First time I hear him crying. Usually they cry between themselves and he informs about that. But he cried to me only today. As I thought, vinnai thandi varuvaya climax is nearing. He is completely stressed. In fact, the blog ‘Why is this happening to me alone’ was written thinking about him. But these articles are not enough to console him. Frequent dialogues which we hear in films ‘I see her in everything’, ‘I don’t know how I am going to live without her’, and ‘Will she be happy? How is she going to change herself ’and so on………..

Sorry da, I should not have done that. I should not have persuaded you to propose. I never thought this will go so long and trouble you. But my friend, time is the best healer. Whatever happens, life has to move on….

Advices for my friends, who are in love/planning to love, if you think your family will not accept your love don’t propose or accept offers. All lovers are very optimistic while loving. They think they can somehow convince their parents, but how? Of all of them only very few percent people succeed in getting married. This is the case for this girl too. She knew her parents won’t agree, but she thought she could convince them. Now she couldn’t.

So guys, if your parents are not willing to accept love marriage, please don’t propose or accept proposals. If you are bold enough to say, ‘amma, I love a girl, shall I propose to her today’, then go on… else please stop it. Don’t trouble yourself and trouble others also. If I had known this before, I would not have asked my friend to propose. At least I won’t do that in future to any.